Psalm 92:14 - They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green.
You walk into your house and find your son and his best friend once more playing video games. It feels like that’s all your son does these days, but did you know that adults play video games too?
Many video game companies, in recent years, have been creating games with adult players in mind. The complexities of the world that's created within the game can for a time make the gamer believe that they are living in a different life than the one they are in reality.
But being in that world may not be such a bad idea as more evidence shows that with the right game you can actually help increase memory, such as in the case of World of Warcraft, while others may help patients who've suffered from a stroke as indicated in the article, “9 Ways Video Games can Actually be Good for You,” on huffingtonpost.com.
So the next time you see your son playing a video game sit down next to him and ask if you can play, too. This might blow your son’s mind, but when you tell him it might help you think better and have fun while doing it, he might just hand you an extra controller and welcome you into game land.
Leviticus 19:32 - “‘Stand up in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God. I am the LORD.’”
There comes a time when those who suffer from chronic pain or an illness can no longer do some of their daily activities.
Vacuuming and cleaning the floor can cause pain in your neck or back and these chores go out the window.
Just standing in front of the sink washing dishes can bring pain to the neck and back and especially for those who’ve suffered a previous injury.
Doing laundry also becomes difficult to do with the lifting and bending that is needed to complete the task.
If the infirmed individual can no longer drive due to vision problems or difficulty turning their neck they need help.
Shopping for groceries becomes difficult.
You become more aware each time you attempt the tasks above that you need help. But asking for help can be hard to do especially if you’ve taken care of your needs without help in the past.
A visit to your physician confirms what you’ve known was coming and he says that it’s time to get some help.
So the search begins to find a caregiver to help you with daily tasks and taking you to doctor’s appointments.
How do you know who the right person is to help you? You’d like it to be a family member, but you know with their busy schedules and their own families to care for, it may not be possible for them to help you.
The next step is to find a caregiver. In some situations, the infirmed person may qualify for a free caregiver. Check with your local county office of Social Services.
Whether you qualify for free caregiver providers or need to hire one on your own, find some tips for selecting a caregiver in the article, “5 Important Tips for Selecting a Caregiver,” on claritycareadvocates.com, such as determining the type of care needed or the individual needing to be monitored more closely.
In addition to the tips in the article above, whether a caregiver is sent by a social services agency or from the private sector here are some questions to ask a potential caregiver during the interview process from the article, “How to Choose a Caregiver,” on insideeldercare.com.
Needing to find help to take care of yours or another individuals needs takes effort in order to find the right fit. God especially watches over those who are infirmed and their needs. Trust that he will be with you each step of the way when finding someone to help.
Psalm 20:2 - May he send you help from the sanctuary and grant you support from Zion.
It feels like it’s all around us.
Everyone seems to be talking about it and how it affects them.
It’s the one word that everyone is afraid they will hear from their doctor.
With all the funding and research that has gone on why hasn’t a cure been found?
Why must so many people suffer?
And what are they suffering from? Cancer
Though cancer has not come knocking at my door, I have loved ones who have had to battle this terrible disease. Though a cure for cancer has not been found yet, there are newer treatments every year. And the number of cancer patients has been going down in recent years. Knowing this can give us hope that a friend or loved one will make it through to the other side of cancer.
So, what can we do to help the one who struggles with cancer? You can find some tips in the article, “10 Tips for Supporting a Friend with Cancer,” from Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, such as making a phone call and asking if it's a good time to visit and setting up phone teams to pass on updated information so that the cancer patient doesn't have to keep answering the same questions every time the phone rings.
Getting news that someone has cancer is one of the most difficult and painful sorrows that can come upon you. With God’s help and those around them, they can receive the support that will make all the difference. Choose to be part of that support.
Proverbs 2:6 - For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.
Remember when you watched the smile and excitement form on your child’s face and she took one little foot and stuck it out in front of the other. She wobbled a bit and then that foot was planted on the ground. Everyone in the room cheered. Her first step!
Go forward a couple of years where your child is trying their limits. You’re in the kitchen and you hear a crash. You run to the living room only to find your two-year old on the floor crying and her older sibling saying, “We were only jumping off the couch.”
As you examine your two-year old you notice a bump rising. You lift her up and go with your two-year old and her brother to the emergency room. After a couple of x-rays you discover that nothing was broken and that your child only has a light concussion. “This time,” you think to yourself. Then you remember how your older child “tested the waters” of what he could do and the times you ended up in the emergency room with him.
What you did after your two-year old child was absolutely necessary. Now, I’m not a doctor or in any medical profession, so my advice is to do what I do: Don’t hesitate with any kind of head injury and take your child to your doctor or the emergency room, especially for babies or small children. Head injuries are nothing to mess with. This rule should also go for adults when they take a fall or hit their head.
You'll find symptoms of possible intracranial injury in both children and adults, plus detailed descriptions of head injuries, types, what areas of the brain are affected and what to look for in the article, "How to Know When Head Injuries are Serious," on nymetroparents.com.
When making decisions about when to take an adult or child for medical attention after a head injury, it can be difficult. When in doubt, take the injured person to be checked out. Also, remember that God can give you the wisdom you need for such a decision.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 - There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.
When in a relationship, those with chronic pain or an illness have to decide when is the right time to talk about your physical problems?
Most chronic pain sufferers who have had to make this decision would suggest you tell the other person early on. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell them. You may feel scared to do so and wonder:
Will it chase them away?
Will they accept me?
Will they even care that I’m suffering?
All difficult questions.
There’s another choice you can make, but it may not be the best way to help your relationships:
It’s easy to pretend that you’re okay even in a flare-up. As I have written about before, for someone who cares about you and knows you’re in pain, it can be difficult for them because they feel helpless and don’t know what to do or how to deal with what you just told them.
Find some suggestions on how to explain your chronic pain to others when that time comes from wikiHow.com in the article, “How to Explain Your Chronic Pain to Others,” such as explaining your condition, as well as letting them know that the pain is real.
Now that you’ve learned how to approach someone in your life about your chronic pain or illness, it’s time to decide when. As the Bible verse above says, there is a time and season for everything. It can be scary, but sharing that you suffer in pain can open up the door for deeper relationships if you and the other person are willing to try.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.