Psalm 77: 3-5 – I remembered you, God, and I groaned; I meditated, and my spirit grew faint. You kept my eyes from closing; I was too troubled to speak. I thought about the former days, the years of long ago.
If you have a long-term illness, or a disability, there are things that you just can’t do:
And this lack of being able to do things can lead to severe depression and loss of a sense of self-worth. No matter where you turn, with time, even more areas of your life feel impossible to do. Even making decisions can be difficult.
But if you need a caregiver, whether it’s a family member or one from Social Services, all is not lost. With the help of a caregiver you may find your needs being met, and your sense of self-worth raised. It takes a person with much patience and a kind heart to help someone in need.
Some people seem to be born with the ability to see and feel the hurt in another’s life. And if you’re the one suffering from a disability, you have a unique viewpoint. Don’t stay shut up in your own little world. Reach out and you may find someone who needs your viewpoint and it may help them move from being shut in to reaching out to the world.
Take a look at the article, “A Point of View: Happiness and Disabilty,” on bbc.com. The post talks about how people with disabilities can still lead a life of happiness. There’s a difference between being born with a disability and those who become disabled. People born with a disability have nothing to compare with their existence. Whereas someone who becomes disabled can feel profound depression. Quality of life can still return to a place where you were before you were disabled.
Keep your focus on the good things in your life and you can find the depression that chases after you dissipates and you’re left with joy in your life once more. Find things that you can do and you’ll stop focusing on what you can’t do.
The Bible verses above speak about how the psalmist thought about his former life and groaned as he thought about them. He felt that God had forgotten him. We too can feel like God isn’t caring about us anymore, that the years of long ago joy won’t come back around, but they can. You can mediate on the good things in your life and find yourself enjoying today more. Even if you need help from others to do for you the things you can no longer do.
Mark 5:26 – She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had, yet instead of getting better she grew worse.
I have to admit, that sometimes I villainize a new physician – he’s the bad guy and I’m the victim. Ever feel this way? With all of the tests and trying new medications can be tiring.
Your doctor says, “I’m not sure if this will work, but let’s give it a try.” Ugh, I’m circling the drain as the side affects of a new med makes me nauseous and gives me a headache. Sometimes we do need to stop taking a new medication if the side affects are more powerful than the help it brings. But sometimes you have to stick it out because side affects can decrease the longer you take the medication.
So here you are, wanting to scream, because you have to see yet another specialist and you have to explain your symptoms and your medical history one more time.
Do you ever wonder what a doctor is really typing into their computer? Perhaps is something into your record. But, what if he’s really just playing a game? In a way wouldn’t that be funny? So on he goes typing on his computer waiting for you to hurry up and finish your story.
The problem is that there are fewer doctors than there are patients. Many times doctors over book and he only has few minutes to give each patient. But just because he doesn’t have time, don’t let this give you one more reason to villainize your doctor. It’s all about perspective. So the next time you feel stressed as the doctor spins through your appointment, think about things from their perspective and try to be as concise as you can and explain why you are there. Give the doctor some space and you may find that he calms down as well, and is glad to have a patient like you.
Here’s an article on psicinsurance.com, titled, “Overbooking and Double-booking: What’s Acceptable,” which talks about double booking patients or having a primary care doctor who treats in a patient focused organization. It also talks about the difference between overbooking and double booking.
In closing, look at the Bible verse above. Here was a woman who’d spent all she had seeing many doctors. I wonder if she felt like a victim, or was she just trying her best to find a way to relieve her pain and sickness? I believe that it’s all about perspective. Ask God to show you whether the doctor is taking advantage of you for their gain, or if they feel like a victim, also, but of the expectations that are placed upon them? Sometimes they are also just trying to do their best to help you.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.