Matthew 12: 47 – Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”
Sometimes our families can be our biggest support group when we are experiencing medical issues.
But other times, our families criticize us because of the choices we are making with our medical issues.
It’s a mixed bag of apples. One bite and you’re understood and comforted by our families. But with another bite we’re being put down for our decisions.
What’s a person to do? It’s hard because we never know how our families will react. Sometimes our family’s support is flat out against us. What’s a person to do?
It boils down to when to talk to your family and when to avoid the conversation. It’s hard when we’ve had so much support from our family in the past and now they’re putting us down.
I long for the day when I knew I could count on my family’s support. Sometimes our friends can be our bigger support system.
It may be that you’re going to have to stay away from the subject and simply not tell them. It breaks my heart when I make that choice. And it may break our family’s heart when we don’t tell them what’s going on.
Webmd.com sheds some light on this tricky decision. In their article, “Keeping in Touch with Family can Keep You Healthy,” you can find helpful information about emotional support such as making us feel better, esteem support, network support, informational support, tangible support, and how to keep the lines of communication open by utilizing cell phone conversations or emails which might be easier to use rather than a sit down conversation with your family.
Whatever choice you make know that your family probably does love you. It just may feel like we don’t have their support when they are just want to look for what will be the best choice for us.
Look at the Bible verse above. Even Jesus had difficulties with his family. They thought he was crazy for surrounding himself with so many people. They thought they knew what was best for Jesus when they didn’t.
Feel open to what your family says to you. It just may be their way of wanting to help. But also, be aware when your family is angry with you and the choice you’re making. After all, it is your choice.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.