Psalm 22:24 – For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help.
We look on the outside of a person and see them as one whole person, but there are also individual body parts at work:
Each part moves as one unit with each part doing its job. But sometimes the job of the body is given up to chronic health conditions.
Each part still acts as a whole with the pain in one part of the body, but it can cause pain to radiate into another.
When speaking to someone about your pain, they may not understand why you have so many chronic health conditions.
Sometimes there’s no convincing someone that your body is pieces of a whole acting in rhythm to the beat of pain, but it is worth trying to understand.
Relationships can become strained when one person has multiple health issues and the other person doesn’t. Learning how to have conversations with someone ill can seem daunting, but learning how to approach someone with health conditions can actually strengthen relationships. So what are some ways that we can communicate with our family and friends, and what kinds of things can we do to help them?
CNN.com addresses what not to say to someone who’s suffering and what we can do to help them instead in their article, “Talking to Someone With a Chronic Illness.” One of their suggestions is to tell them that you don’t know what to say, but you do care about them, and letting them know you’ll be going to the store and ask what you can pick up for them.
Little-by-little if others begin to treat the one who’s suffering with compassion and understanding, the one who feels like pieces of a whole will know that we care about all of their needs.
God also cares about the one with multiple health conditions. He doesn’t turn away from them or despise them for it, nor does he disbelieve what is happening. Instead he doesn’t hide his face from them but listens to their cry for help. We also can listen to their cry for help and then respond to them regardless of what we think about their many health conditions.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.