Luke 14:28 – Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?
You’ve tried this before. Not just once but twice and here you are facing another go at it. Do you quit? Do you try again? The answer is yes.
If you have a new doctor who is confident that they can help you and you believe they are also competent to do the procedure, going for a third time can be hard but the benefits may outweigh the cost.
It will take time.
It will take belief in the doctor.
It will take someone who is going alongside you.
It will take faith that God will stay with you the whole time.
It may give you more pain-free days.
It may provide you with a compassionate doctor.
You may be an encouragement to the one who comes alongside you.
It may be a way to strengthen your faith.
Outcomes are completely dependent on your believing that this time it’s going to work. The benefit outweighing the cost. If you’re chalk full of negative thoughts, you may not experience a successful treatment. Mind over matter sometimes does set up a way to improve your outcome.
Hbr.org posts the article, “3 Timeless Rules for Making Tough Decisions,” provides us with some suggestions on how to make tough decisions. First, use habits to reduce routine decision fatigue. If you build a habit, then you avoid the decision entirely and save your energy for other things. Next, use if/then thinking to deal with unpredictable choices. Another is using a timer to set how much time you give yourself to make a decision.
Whatever your choice in helping you make tough decisions, remember when you feel afraid that you will fail to pick the right choice, if you don’t make some form of a choice, then the choice will be made for. An example would be when you find out there’s a traffic jam on your way home, you can either take a breath and wait, or you can get off the next off-ramp and take another way home. If you do nothing, then taking a breath and waiting will become the only choice.
Remember to count the cost of your decisions as the Bible verse above talks about. Weigh the cost and then move forward even if you make the wrong choice. Trust also that God is the God of wisdom and will show you what to do if you turn to him and believe he can help you move forward.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.