Job 4:4 - Your words have supported those who stumbled; you have strengthened faltering knees.
There are many things you can say that would help someone, but here’s a few things people say which don’t help from mindandsoul.com: “Pull yourself together”, “we all feel like that sometimes but you have to snap out of it”, “it’s your own fault”, “there’s no such thing as depression you’re just feeling sorry for yourself”, “why can’t the doctors do anything”, or “you should just stop taking all those pills and just trust God”. Each one of these statements makes me sad inside. God wants us to love others and lift them up when they are down. Do people often say things to you that are hurtful instead of helpful? What are some of them and how did they make you feel? I look forward to hearing from you.
Psalm 40:12 - For troubles without number surround me; my sins have overtaken me, and I cannot see. They are more than the hairs of my head, and my heart fails within me.
Failure. You keep making mistake after mistake and tumble down into the rabbit hole of discouragement and despair. However, what you may think is a failure God takes and turns into a beautiful bouquet of flowers. God makes all things new. Even failures. Do you ever feel like a failure? If so, do you believe God can make all things new? I’d love to hear from you.
Romans 13:7 - Give everyone what you owe him: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.
Respect. It can be hard to come by. It’s something that has to be earned. This applies readily to our relationships with others. However, how do you earn respect for yourself? Many times we think and treat ourselves like as if we are less of a person because of where our life is at. What we have to remember is that if we don’t respect ourselves how can we expect anyone else to? Do you have trouble respecting yourself? I’d love to hear from you.
Galatians 6:9-10 - Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.
Have you ever noticed when you’re around a pessimist pretty soon you’re riding the same train? Suddenly a train ticket ends up in our hands when we join the pessimist and begin complaining about something too. It’s easy to find something wrong, but hard to purposely look for what’s right. Maybe that pessimist is in a bad mood and your finding something good to say can cause that person to stop the train and get off. Then the two of you can find a different train to ride; one that takes you out of the desert valley and places you beside a cool mountain stream. Do you find yourself being more of a pessimist than an optimist? If so, what steps do you think you can take to help you see things in a more positive light? I look forward to hearing from you.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.