Matthew 10:30-31 - And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
You’d like to give your opinion on a matter and tell others what you want to do, but it’s like as if you’ve shrunk to the size of a peanut and nobody is paying attention to you. Sometimes it feels like they stomp on the peanut and sweep the crumbs out the door. Why is it that you always have to give up what you want and concede to everyone else’s wishes? Is it wrong to express what you want? Should you push your will onto everyone else’s to get your way? Is there a better way to communicate your desires? God created you to be unique. No one else has your mindset or talents to give to the world. So, you don’t have to be afraid of expressing what you want and receiving a “no” answer. Nor do you have to push your will onto someone else lowering their self worth. If you gradually increase expressing your desires, it may be that others will not only hear your take on the matter, but they may run with it.
Psalm 34:18 - The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Living with emotional pain can be a roller coaster ride. You go up feeling okay and that you can handle things, but then the ride plummet you toward the ground, knocking the wind out of your lungs and plunges you into a valley of emotional pain. So what’s the answer? You get off the roller coaster. Life is full of ups and downs and heartaches that want to crush your spirit. And yes, there can be a good cause for those ups and downs during seasons of your life. But I’m talking about chronic emotional pain. For that you must turn to God for help. As you pray, God will wrap his arms around you and hold you until your emotional pain roller coaster takes a more level path.
Job 12:13 - To God belong wisdom and power; counsel and understanding are his.
Failure. You keep making mistake after mistake and tumble down into the rabbit hole of discouragement and despair. Sometimes you make mistakes because you’re trying to finish a task too quickly. This may cause you to have to start from scratch and try again. I have found though, that having to start over doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Your mind can be freed up to see things from a different perspective. And if you’re mind seems stuck, perhaps you can step away from the project and use your mind for something else. Take a moment to pray and ask God for strength and wisdom. Then, when you come back to your project, you may find ideas flooding in and you finally finish the task.
Psalm 139:15 - My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
With chronic pain, I think this is where the rub is – not being able to return to a normal life. Everything changes in a heartbeat when either an accident or illness takes pain and maximizes the suffering it causes. Our eyes now look through tainted glasses. Each time a project or event comes up in your life, you have to decide if going will bring you a flare-up of pain. But life wasn’t meant to bring only suffering. There can be joy even if there’s pain. They can coexist, but you must be willing to be flexible and let how your body feels guide your day. That way, you will be less likely to automatically take something on that might bring more suffering. Taking a day to rest after your activity is also a good way to allow your body to recover. Remember, God is the maker of your body, and he knows what you can and can’t do. Ask him what you should do with your day and he will direct you.
Job 16:6 - Yet if I speak, my pain is not relieved; and if I refrain, it does not go away.
Some of the hardest words to hear are, “There is no cure.” How do I go on with my life when I find out I’m going to have to live with this illness? There are no easy answers. Each person has to face what’s going on and travel down the road towards acceptance. This doesn’t mean that we won’t explore ways to help us live a better life even with a chronic illness. Try looking at alternative therapies such as essential oils, herbal supplements and acupuncture. You may feel, at first, like you are grasping at straws, but somewhere in the middle of the haystack of illness, God can help you find a way to live the best way you can.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.