Psalm 73:4-5 - They have no struggles; their bodies are healthy and strong. They are free from common human burdens; they are not plagued by human ills.
Jealousy and envy can chip away the happiness we have in our lives. This applies to not only our general lives, but when we battle a chronic health condition. We can become jealous of the lives of people who don’t face the battle of pain every day. Why do others not face a daunting life of pain? Why do we have to? Realize you’ll never find peace or joy in your life if you keep looking at healthy people’s lives. And just because they look healthy, it doesn’t mean that they or someone they love battles pain. God wants us to live with more satisfaction in our lives by focusing on how we want our lives to go, and include showing others we care about them whether they have a health problem or not.
Psalm 66:18-19 - If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened; but God has surely listened and heard my voice in prayer.
Do you have trouble getting your needs met? It may be that people push you aside because you’ve never expressed your wishes. Your family and friends may think that you’re fine with whatever everyone else wants. Maybe they do care, but they don’t know there’s a problem. We can improve on expressing our needs and wants to others while also being willing to listen to theirs. This will help us to keep our relationships growing and open instead of animosity taking over. You see, even though you think something isn’t bothering you, being ignored can cause animosity to take over your feelings, too. Communicating isn’t easy, but it can be harder if each party is hiding their true feelings. God understands our feelings and is ready to listen to us. He can also bring people to mind as we pray that we may not always listen to.
Luke 6:31 - Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Sometimes others blame you for the problems in their life, but did you know that if you’re not careful you can become the blamer. We each have the power in our hands to dig a ditch and lay down in it, but we don’t have the right to drag someone else down into that ditch with us. When you live with chronic pain, you may find that you not only have a lower energy level, but your emotions spew out all around you. Sometimes that spray is dousing your loved ones as well. Don’t let your pain bring pain to others. Talk to God about what you’re feeling. Let him know that you don’t want to hurt others with your words or actions, and he will help you think of others and not just yourself.
Psalm 38:4 - My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear.
Everybody has bad days. However, when scorn and derision come your way you may think that it’s your fault, but it’s not. Someone may try to make you believe that all of the problems in their life are your fault. But sometimes it’s just a bad day. Nothing more. Nothing less. Don’t take it upon yourself and feel weighed down by trying to make all roads straight. You can’t and don’t need to do. Those around you will gradually see that you have grown as a person and are no longer going to let others blame the world on you. So the next time someone goes into a tirade at how things are your fault, remind them that you aren’t God and you don’t control what happens. It can be a scary process, but you’ll find yourself growing into the strong person that God wants you to be.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.