1 Samuel 16:7 - But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
In your past people may have hurt you. Now, it’s difficult not to be afraid of other people and what they might do to you. But not everyone is an abuser. There are kind people and those who show us compassion because of the pain we carry. Find a few kind people to be around and your fear of other people will grow to a mere whisper in your mind. Are you afraid of other people and how they may hurt you because you were hurt in the past? Is it hard for you to believe there are kind and compassionate people around you? Let’s talk about it. I’d love to hear from you.
Psalm 71:18 - Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your mighty acts to all who are to come.
What is old age? Is it something to dread and be afraid of? It doesn’t have to be. Age can be a time of discovering new parts of yourself; gaining wisdom through life experiences. Maybe there’s something that you’ve wanted to do your whole life, but your job and raising your children may have not allowed you to. Now that you are older, and your children are out on their own, you’re in a different season of life. Take hold of that lifelong dream and go for it. I believe your children will admire you for having the courage to do so. Do you struggle with getting older? Are you afraid of the changes it will bring? I’d love to hear from you.
Proverbs 2:9 - Then you will understand what is right and just and fair--every good path.
Let me tell you it to you straight. Even though your heart feels like it’s been dragged over hot coals, life isn’t fair. Things don’t go the way you want them to and you begin to look at someone else – someone else who’s smarter, someone who doesn’t struggle with a mental illness, someone else who seems to have a better life than you. But remember, also, that there will always be someone else who thinks you’re smarter than them, someone who thinks you’ve got that mental struggle under control, and someone else who thinks you have the better life. Life isn’t going to be fair to anyone. We all struggle even if it doesn’t look like someone else does. Stop trying to make life fair, and try to take your eyes off others and even off yourself. Keep your eyes on God who gives us more than is really fair for us to have. He showers us with abundant rain out of his goodness and faithfulness. Do you struggle with thinking life isn’t fair? Would you be willing to share what you think isn’t fair and how you’re getting past it? I’d love to hear from you.
Romans 12:12 - Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
Where do you live? –- In the past filled with regret, or in the present where you’ve found hope. If you continue to focus on the past, especially if you blame yourself for what happened, it can be destructive to your life. But how do I pull myself out of the past? How do I Iet go of so many regrets? By believing that your present has hope. Hope is that rainbow in the sky. You can find the end of that rainbow when you have hope. Yes, you have to walk through the rain to reach it, but at the end of the rainbow your present is filled with color instead of the black and white of past regrets. Next time it rains, remember a rainbow will be shining down on you soon. Do you struggle with regrets and living in the past? Or, do you have the ability to stay away from focusing on the past and believe that there is still hope for you? I’d love to hear from you.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.