Proverbs 16:9 - In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.
Being flexible isn’t always easy for type “A” personalities. We tend to want to have everything planned out before beginning our day. And then, something happens to side track us. But what we thought was messing up our day actually brought about a chance to do something we wouldn’t normally do. And that can lead to joy and strengthening of our confidence. It’s good to plan for things, but not to try to insure that nothing will happen to mess up those plans. Do you struggle with wanting everything to happen as you’ve planned for it to be? Is “flexible” not even in your vocabulary? Let’s talk about it.
Proverbs 14:30 - A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.
Bitter envy. It creeps in when we least expect it causing us to be jealous of another person’s life. How does a person let go of bitter envy and not let it control their lives anymore? Here’s some suggestions: Think about the good things in your life, remind yourself that nobody has it all, avoid people who frequently do what’s wrong, hang out with grateful people, celebrate the successes of others not just your own, and be generous. These may seem like simple measures, but they can kick envy out the door and allow you to appreciate people instead of envying them. Do you struggle with being jealous of other people’s lives? Let’s talk about it.
Philippians 3:12 - Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.
Do you compare yourself to others? Does it feel like you always miss that perfect shot? Stop using comparisons. You may only see things that others do better than you do. But did you know that there is always something that you can do as well or even better than someone else. The only one you should be comparing yourself to is the God who loves you just the way you are. Do you struggle with comparing yourself to others and feel like you never measure up? Let’s talk about it.
Psalm 62:3 - How long will you assault me? Would all of you throw me down - this leaning wall, this tottering fence?
Sometimes you can feel older than your years especially if you battle emotional pain. You feel like an old leaning fence ready to topple over. Somehow you feel so much older. Find ways to feel young again even if you battle depression and anxiety: Get more sleep, eat food that gives you energy like fruit, pump some iron by using dumbbells while you exercise, take care of your body, mix up your routine like taking a different way home or creating meals you’ve never made, listen to music you listened to in high school, and get rid of focusing on the doom and gloom in our world and look for the positive.
Job 20:2 - My troubled thoughts prompt me to answer because I am greatly disturbed.
Are you a “stuffer”? Do you push down your feelings and ignore what’s going on? Whether it is chronic pain or emotional pain we can only try to hide for so long. Eventually your feelings will come out. The only question is how you want them to come out. It doesn’t make us weak or a bad person because we don’t always act like we’ve “got it all together.” Stop stuffing and start letting go by laying it at Jesus’ feet and listening to what he says about you. He knows you’re hurting and you don’t ever have to hide something from him. Especially your feelings. Do you stuff your feelings and try to ignore the pain you’re going through? Let’s talk about it.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.