Psalm 41:9 - Even my close friend, someone I trusted, one who shared my bread, has turned against me.
Life is hard. It whispers thoughts of inadequacy. It shows you dark places you don’t want to walk in. It reveals what’s in the heart. It leaves you in a pile of broken pieces at your feet. You see, just as you think life is done hurting you, the most painful thing of all happens – Your loved one hates you. This pain can be even more deeply felt than when you lose a loved one in death. That statement is going to make some people angry with me, but when you stand in the face of spoiled fruit ready to turn into rancid words and actions; you’ll know what I mean. And, while all the time you don’t have a clue of what you’ve done to make your loved one hate you. Is there anything we can do to stop our loved one from hating us? Aren’t our tears enough? Aren’t our efforts to make amends enough? Where did we go so wrong? We must take the high road and not turn on them and throw insults their way. It is God we can depend on. God can be our comfort. He is our ultimate loved one and will never speak unkindly about us or become our enemy. Trust that love and maybe someday, you’ll find your loved one walking towards you with open arms.
Job 17:7 - My eyes have grown dim with grief; my whole frame is but a shadow.
Losing a loved one or friend through death can be difficult to get past. If you’ve lost someone, what helped you the most to find peace and how did you move beyond grief and walk back into the events of normal life?
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Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.