Psalm 37:8 - Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret--it leads only to evil.
Many people when they are in situations they have no control over or when things go very wrong, experience strong emotions. Some display anger while others show worry. For me the worry and stress I try to hold inside sometimes turns into anger; except, my anger is not displayed to the world. It lives inside where the fire burns hot, but only a few puffs of smoke are released. Anger in itself is not bad. It can be just a display of boundaries that have been broken. This is quite normal. The trick is to diffuse the situation as quickly as possible. It takes learning to be aware that your anger thermometer is rising. If you keep that anger from eating away at your day, week and sometimes for a lifetime then you can find peace even in the most heated situation. But we can’t do it on our own. We need to ask God to be our anger meter and alert us when we’re letting anger or worry build up. He can teach us to also be alert of anger other people are throwing our way. Let’s get out those thermometers and start to find ways to diffuse the anger or worry bomb.
Luke 6:31 - Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Sometimes others blame you for the problems in their life, but did you know that if you’re not careful you can become the blamer. We each have the power in our hands to dig a ditch and lay down in it, but we don’t have the right to drag someone else down into that ditch with us. When you live with chronic pain, you may find that you not only have a lower energy level, but your emotions spew out all around you. Sometimes that spray is dousing your loved ones as well. Don’t let your pain bring pain to others. Talk to God about what you’re feeling. Let him know that you don’t want to hurt others with your words or actions, and he will help you think of others and not just yourself.
Proverbs 14:30 - A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.
Bitter envy. It creeps in when we least expect it causing us to be jealous of another person’s life. How does a person let go of bitter envy and not let it control their lives anymore? Here’s some suggestions: Think about the good things in your life, remind yourself that nobody has it all, avoid people who frequently do what’s wrong, hang out with grateful people, celebrate the successes of others not just your own, and be generous. These may seem like simple measures, but they can kick envy out the door and allow you to appreciate people instead of envying them. Do you struggle with being jealous of other people’s lives? Let’s talk about it.
Proverbs 14:29 - A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.
When I’m in pain or sick I often find that things irritate me more than when I’m feeling better. I even get irritated at my dog, when I’m walking her; if she’s taking what I feel is too much time to find that “right” spot to relieve herself. Do you become irritated when you’re in pain and what kinds of things irritate you?
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.