Isaiah 35:3 - Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way.
You’ve just gotten off work so you decide to visit your mom. You pull up and head out of your car towards the door when you notice it’s already opened. Your heart begins to beat rapidly as you hope something hasn’t happened to your mom. You enter your mom’s home and start calling her name. You hold your nose because it smells like something is burning. You call your mom’s name again, as you reach the stove and take off the burning pan. Searching from room-to-room you discover your mom watching TV in the living room; oblivious to what’s going on around her. It’s happened again. Your mom forgot that she had something cooking on the stove. She’s done this before, but not to this extent where the pan was burning. You also notice how cold it is in her home. Maybe because the door was left over, but you discover she’d turned off the heater. When a parent dies there is great sorrow. However, there is a different kind of loss when you lose a parent to dementia and slowly watch them deteriorate. Steps will have to be taken, you know, to get your mom help. It tears your heart apart. Then God steps into the room and puts his arm around your parent. You know it’s going to get harder, but you are comforted that God will strengthen her hands and steady her knees when she is unable to care for herself any more. He will also comfort us as we walk through this season of our parents’ life, and help us make the right decisions for our parent’s care.
Psalm 71:18 - Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your mighty acts to all who are to come.
What is old age? Is it something to dread and be afraid of? It doesn’t have to be. Age can be a time of discovering new parts of yourself; gaining wisdom through life experiences. Maybe there’s something that you’ve wanted to do your whole life, but your job and raising your children may have not allowed you to. Now that you are older, and your children are out on their own, you’re in a different season of life. Take hold of that lifelong dream and go for it. I believe your children will admire you for having the courage to do so. Do you struggle with getting older? Are you afraid of the changes it will bring? I’d love to hear from you.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.