Ecclesiastes 3:1 - There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.
There are seasons in our lives that come and go. Some go by quickly, while others drag on. Some are seasons of great joy, while others leave our hearts broken. Sometimes we have a season when our bodies are working correctly and our pain is held at bay. Our bodies let us go out and take part in family gatherings and spend time with friends. But then our chronic pain slaps us in the face demanding that we focus on it instead and we head into a season of pain. This is where the rubber meets the road. If we are by ourselves it may be okay to let down our guard and grieve this day of chronic pain. But when we are with others, it’s okay to grieve in front of them and be an honest person. But it’s not okay to do all of the time. If we constantly have our heads laid down with no hope of a smile forming on our lips, how will that give courage to someone else who sees us and is also grieving from chronic pain? Be real, but also show others that though life is really hard living with chronic pain, it doesn’t have to mean that this season of our lives is only meant to be lived in grief. This won’t be easy. It will go beyond our own strength to do it. We can reach out our hands toward God. He will take hold of our hand and help us stand back up. Then we can reach out our other hand towards someone else who is also struggling in pain. Together we can lift each other up and be honest when life is hard.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.