Proverbs 17:7 - A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
You have a friend who you care a great deal about and they are struggling with a situation. It’s hard for you to watch them as they try to do something to correct the problem, but they aren’t able to.
Your heart hurts for them. You can almost feel your friend’s loss physically, and all you can think about is how you want to step in and somehow help.
But there’s nothing you can do.
Each of us face problems. Some of them we can ask other people to help us and they come along side of us as we pass through the circumstances. Did you get that I said, “come along side of”? This doesn’t mean we can fix the problem for them. It means that we can be there to give them encouragement to not give up.
And that is powerful.
Here are some suggestions from goodlifezen.com on how to comfort a friend through a crisis the right way in the article, “21 Ways to Comfort a Friend in Crisis,” such as offering practical help like making calls or doing errands.
The next time you want to just “fix” something, realize that the best way you can “fix” a friend’s problem is to be there. Try using some of the suggestions above and it may help your friend find the solution they need just by being there for them.
And as the Bible verse above states, if we truly are another’s friend then we will be there no matter what the adversity is.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.