Job 29:24 – When I smiled at them, they scarcely believed it; the light of my face was precious to them.
I believe what you sow, you will reap. We may be inflicted by severe emotional pain, yet we can still find ways to share some kindness with others.
For one thing, if you are grumpy, and if you aren’t nice to others, such as your family, they will get grumpy with you.
How you treat people even in those difficult, dark valley moments of your soul can influence not only the life of your friends and family, but yours as well.
How we treat others is a reflection of what’s being held in our hearts. So when someone is mean to us, we're not to be mean back. What we can do is find a reason to say "thank you" about what they've done for you in the past or you could say, "I can tell something is going on in your life that's difficult. Is there anything I can do for you?"
All it takes is to smile and say thank you, showing your gratitude to those around us and not just those who are kind.
Tinybuddha.com in their article, “4 Ways to be Kind When You Don’t Feel Like It.” The article talks about acknowledging that you should be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle – Plato. Also, horrible people usually do horrible things because they are hurting. Deep down, they already feel horrible about themselves. The article also has suggestions on how to not treat people horribly and to ask yourself why you feel the need to be mean to someone.
The smile you give to someone may be something they truly need and is precious to them as the Bible verse above says. So, exercise your face and smile more. It’ll do your body good.
Exodus 18:18 – You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you can’t handle it alone.
Getting back at it. There is much joy when we have the opportunity to get back to what we enjoy doing our hobby, gardening or our jobs after circumstances have prevented us from doing them. It could be an illness, or an injury that kept us from working.
I’ve recently gotten back to writing after almost three months of being in and out of hospitals and care facilities. It’s great to be writing again, but I’ll have to admit, it was a bit difficult jumping back into the water.
For one thing, I can’t seem to find some of the documents I’ve been working on. I have so many files with names that are close so that it’s difficult for me to find the most recent file. The computer no longer has saved files listed because I haven’t worked on things for almost three months.
But the only way to solve these problems is to write any way. It doesn’t have to be a long document. It can be just some thoughts put on paper.
Tbihealth.co.nz has an article title, “Returning to 'Normal Life' After an Injury.” The article talks about returning after an injury, but it can also apply to an extended illness. The article discusses when expectations and reality don’t match up. It also lists common misconceptions, such as when your doctor says that you can return to work but you don’t feel that you’re physically ready to do so.
Getting back at it may seem like a monstrous task. It doesn’t have to be. You don’t have to try to make it on your own. Take a look at the Bible verse above. It was written during the time when the Israelites were in the wilderness. When people had problems, they would go to Moses for help. But there were too many people and Moses’s father-in-law took note of it and told him that if he continued to do so he would wear himself out. So Moses appointed men to handle the smaller problems and only the bigger problems would go to him. We can also wear ourselves out if we aren’t mindful of how our body is feeling after we get back at it. It’s good to have things you enjoy, but even this can get out of hand if you try to do too much too quickly.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.