Proverbs 2:8 - For he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones.
You grab another brick from the pile, along with a scoop of mortar and add it to the wall you are building. One-by-one, the bricks are added and a wall rises to the front, back, right and left of your position. By late afternoon you step back and examine your work. With a nod, you then you pull out your cell phone and let your new employee know that you’re ready for him to arrive on the job site. With a guard left in place, positioned to defend your home, it’s time for you to take cover inside.
This is a picture of what it looks like to keep yourself “safe” and defend against anyone who would attempt to be part of your life.
It’s easier this way. Letting people into your life can be messy. It can be hurtful. It can take away the safety you feel inside your sheltered dwelling place.
But is it really living if you keep yourself walled off from the world? How can the flower of love bloom if no sun has a chance to lift the darkness off your path?
It can’t. It may feel safer to stay out of touch from other’s lives, but it’s really no way to live.
Why don’t I let others in? Learn some reasons why you guard yourself from others, such as you’ve been emotionally hurt in the past and are not open to getting hurt again, or you were raised in an environment that was physically or emotionally volatile from the article, “Guarding Your Heart Its Really a Matter of Trust,” on the website twoofus.org. You can also find out how to drop your guard and allow people into my life again in the article, “Drop the Mask – How to Slowly Lower Your Guard and Change Your Life,” from tinybuddha.com.
Letting your guard down won’t be easy, but it will be worth it when you start to develop deep and meaningful relationships. And, as we see in the Bible verse above, we don’t need to post a guard over our life. God will be the guard for us and his protection will swing open when a relationship built on trust begins to bloom. So pick up the phone and let your guard you hired know that you will no longer need his service then watch him march away.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.