James 1:8 - Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
Some people have a knack of saying just the “right” thing when they think you need it. They whip out kind and thoughtful words as they see you suffering.
You may believe you’ve finally found someone who truly gets what you’re going through, but then -
Something slips out of their mouth and you see what they really think of you.
Not worthy of being a friend
Always “seem” like they’re emotionally not all there
A waste of time
And on and on it goes. Why are there people who are friendly and upbeat towards you but are really only putting on an act, which by the way, ends up hurting you in the process?
But how does someone hurting walk away from this “friend” even though they know it’s the healthy thing to do, especially if you battle mental illness?
It takes great courage, because once a person has burned you, it’s hard to fully trust anyone ever again.
So there are some choices you can make – you can keep the “friend” and live with them hurting you again because you don’t have many people in your life, or you can cut the rope to the anchor and let it drop to the bottom of the lake and find another boat to get into.
But don’t feel completely untrusting of all people, because there are those who aren’t fake and really do care about you.
How do we know when a person is being real with us or they are only pretending? Inc.com has an interesting article titled, “How to Tell if Someone is Lying: 10 Tells and Clues (Ranked in Ascending Order of Reliability”) such as inappropriate emotions and suspicious expressions.
And as the Bible verse above states a person who doesn’t speak and live in truth are double-minded. Another way of putting it is that they’re two-faced. Let’s not continue to hurt others by not telling the truth. It’s not much of a life when you hurt others. It’s an amazing life if you stay true and uplift those around you.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.