2 Corinthians 12:20 - For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, factions, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.
Jealousy. That old, ugly head just keeps popping up.
You have this friend who has had a rough life so:
Then, you learn that they’re successful and no longer living a rough life.
Jealousy. That old, ugly head isn’t just popping up, but it’s blocking your eyesight.
You raise up an angry fist and say, “I wanted them to succeed, but what about me? Why do I have to endure another season of hardship and pain while they don’t?”
It’s a funny thing watching your friend finally succeed, and still you’re not happy about it. You’d think you’d be the one who is clapping their hands and cheering them on to victory. But you’re not.
The reason why might be that you can’t reach your goals unless you champion someone else to reach theirs. Even if it means you’re now the one failing.
Push aside your angry words, and fist raised up in anger then:
This is not only the way to victory for them but for you, also. So how do we move past jealousy and be proud of someone else? Here are some of the suggestions you’ll find on joegirard.com in his article, “Be Proud, Not Jealous.” Think positive thoughts about other people whose success is likely to invite envy; also, replace jealousy with admiration, and envy with pride.
It won’t be easy to get rid of jealousy, but it will be worth it. All that energy you wasted when you were angry can now be channeled into moving forward. Take a look at the Bible verse above. The apostle Paul was writing to the church in Corinth. They were having trouble with anger and jealousy. God helped that church to move past the way they were feeling and acting. He can do the same for us to help us become proud of someone else’s success. That way you can continue to be there for your friend. After all, there are still moments while you are moving toward your goals when you stumble and fall and could really use someone to be there for you and encourage you to keep going and not give up. Be the person who stands by their friends whether you’re the one in a season of rough times, or a friend is in trouble. Tell them you’re proud of them for not giving up. Then you can be proud of yourself for not giving up either.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.