Luke 6:31 – Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Is there someone in your life who constantly puts you down?
Is there someone in your life who constantly lifts you up and encourages you?
Is there someone in your life who makes you cry and another who makes you laugh?
Is there someone in your life who constantly hurts you?
Is there someone in your life who you need to stand clear of because they’re always stirring up the pot?
Is there someone in your life who helps you become more than who you are right now?
It’s a mixed bag when you have people in your life who don’t accept you as you are and at other times encourage you to move forward. Advice must be said in such a way that you don’t feel put down.
Communication can be positive and negative. Yet, when we begin to judge someone in our life who makes life difficult, what we must remember is that we might make life difficult for someone else.
Think through before you speak to someone:
Remember to treat them how you want them to treat you.
You will sow what you reap, my friend.
What goes around does come around.
Always think before you speak and act.
Maybe it will feel good for a moment to cut someone down, but inevitably the high will wear off as you realize that you’ve become the person who you hate.
Lifewithconfidence.com give us some suggestions in their article, “How to Deal With People who put you Down,” here are a few ideas: people who put you down are hurt themselves also, a self-confident person does not put down others. It’s no use sinking to that person’s level. That’s what they want. Here’s one to throw off the one putting you down: Tell them, “Thank you for your opinion.” This really sets them off their game. Another one is telling them, “Thank you, you might be right.” I know you may be saying right now that you want to attack them back, but that’s exactly what they want. Don’t give in to them.
It can be tiring trying not to get back at the person who hurts you, but it will never help. As the Bible verse above talks about, treat that mean person how you want to be treated, even if it means you must bite your tongue and don’t return a put down. Your peace will increase, and you also have the choice to ignore that person if possible.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.