Psalm 142:1, 2 – I cry aloud to the LORD; I lift up my voice to the LORD for mercy. I pour out my complaint before him; before him I tell my trouble.
You meet someone in the grocery store line.
You see them again the next day at the dentist.
As the days go by, you find yourself running into each other, and with each time you see them you learn a little more about them.
It’s so easy. The relationship grows in a natural course and you wonder if they could be your new best friend.
But then, inevitably you disagree about a subject. You brush it aside feeling that everyone has disagreements. But it doesn’t stop.
You try to see both sides of the situation but no matter what you say; the relationship falls apart.
It’s sad to lose someone who you thought you were close to. You never imagined you’d find someone who liked the things you liked, is funny, and kind. But each of us is capable of picking up an offense and running with it.
So now what? Sometimes the “what” becomes standing aloof and keeping conversations short. Your heart is hurting, so you close the door for anyone to be close to you again.
That’s not how life was meant to be lived. We are social people and naturally crave to be with others. But how do you move beyond lost relationships and open up your heart again? Tinybuddha.com posts the article, “How to Let Go of a Past Relationship: 10 Steps to Move on Peacefully.” They suggest letting yourself feel. Losing a relationship can feel like a mini-death, complete with a grieving process so let yourself grieve.
Losing a relationship may cause you to decide not to let someone into your life again. Instead of avoiding relationships talk to God about them. Pour out your complaint, your troubles to him. God hears your voice and will help you open up your heart and find another friend even if it hurts.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.