Isaiah 65:2 - All day long I have held out my hands to an obstinate people, who walk in ways not good, pursuing their own imaginations.
Couldn’t I have?
Regrets. We all have them. We have things we think could’ve been prevented. But once something’s happened, you can’t take it back no matter how much you wish you could.
I’ve spent the last few weeks looking back over what’s happened. I think of all the things I could’ve done differently. I think of all the things I wish someone I care about would forgive me of.
And the more I looked back, the more that ache inside my chest began to rise up.
We have to ask ourselves if we really could’ve done things differently. Maybe if I hadn’t shared my feelings. Maybe if I’d listened more and talked less. Maybe if I’d reached out sooner. Maybe. If only. I regret. But we can’t go back in time.
No matter how hard we try, no matter how strong our regrets are, we’re only wasting time imagining how things could’ve looked like. But the past is the past. The only way we can keep from developing things we may regret later is to stay in the moment. Focus on what you can do today. Right now. This will lessen the possibilities of regret.
No one is perfect. Not you, or the person you may have hurt. But is it only the other person who was hurt? Are things always our fault? No. Sometimes the person you care about just decides to vomit on us with their negative, fault-finding words.
Let’s decide that we are going to try our best to let go of our regrets and move forward. But how do you move forward and stop letting regrets rule your live? Huffingtonpost.com has a great article titled, “10 Ways to Live Life with no Regrets.” In it they list let your loved ones know you love them and keep your work at work.
There is a warning we must heed just as the Bible verse above says. We walk in ways that are not good if we pursue our imaginations. That means that if we keep thinking about our regrets, we will eventually create another situation we regret. God can help us see more clearly if we turn to him as our hearts aches with regret.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.