Philippians 3:13, 14 - Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
It is inevitable that life will change. For those of us who resist change it can be as painful as any emotional pain.
Change always brings something new but also something is lost. Coming to grips with losing what we had is the only way that we can truly find peace and happiness.
Change can be caused by people who push their will on you thinking that because you’re “emotionally unstable” it won’t matter if they hurt you.
Events can bring about change such as a divorce which shatters your heart and those of your family, because “you had to always have your way.” What does that mean any way? Many times someone will say this because they can’t come to grips that a failed marriage was partly their fault and not just all yours.
Change can sweep into your life because of your health; both your physical and emotional health can affect how you perceive your world. Having a mental illness wash into your life can make it difficult for you to accept the changes that come upon you.
Change also comes about through the painful loss of a loved one. Their absence brings change to families and their lives, because the loved one may have been the rock of the family and now your family has been left in a million pieces.
Change also arrives when a job that you’ve been good at disappears, because the company you worked for decided to change their organization and your job has been eliminated due to downsizing.
With all of these changes we must learn to shore up our emotional health and face that our lives have hit a rocky season. So what can help us accept change? Find some ideas from the article, “The Secret to Accepting Change,” on mydomaine.com, such as realizing you can't always control things and asking yourself why you are scared of change.
Remember, just as the Bible verses above say, we can take hold of change and move forward if we don’t keep trying to hang onto the past. We must try to believe we can press into a better future which will bring us closer to the goals God has for our lives.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.