1 Corinthians 14:40 - But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.
People often say that I’m very organized, but there are also people who say I try to control things. For me, if things are in order I feel more at peace than when things are cluttered.
When my kids were growing up, I did use control to keep them on task while doing their homework, and I monitored the things they wanted to do. I wanted to know if the activity was directed by people I knew. In this way, I caused my kids to do what I wanted.
But now that they’re adults, I no longer try to control their actions. But, I’m there to listen should they need me when they are making a hard decision.
What I use now is self-control. Using self-control helps me remember that the things out of my control are being handled by God.
Let’s take a look at the definitions for organize and control from Merriam-Webster online dictionary's article, "Organized."
To arrange and plan (an event or activity): to arrange or order things so that they can be found or used easily and quickly: to put things into a particular arrangement or order: to gather (people) into a group that will work on something together.
And Merriam-Webster online dictionary's article, "Control."
To direct the behavior of (a person or animal): to cause (a person or animal) to do what you want. To have power over (something). To direct the actions or function of (something): to cause (something) to act or function in a certain way.
Looking over the definitions I see myself doing a little bit of each. For instance, making lists. I usually make a list of things that need to be done the next day before I go to sleep at night. I also try to stay caught up on the clutter that grows in my home. If I sort the mail right after it’s delivered, I’ll throw away the junk mail and open the rest. In this way, I prevent mail from piling up.
Of the definitions above, I like the one for control that says, “to direct the actions or function of (something).” Thinking back over raising my kids I wish that I had controlled less and directed their actions instead. I know my stress level would have been a lot lower.
How about you? Do you tend to be more organized, in control or a little bit of both? I’d love to hear from you.
In addition, you will find a link below that has tips on being organized.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.