Proverbs 18:24: One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I have these friends who I have so fun much getting together with. Most of the time I visit with one friend at a time, but many times I get together with both.
Sometimes we rush into conversations when we have something wonderful to tell each other. It’s always a blast to see their reactions and how good it makes me feel to have made them laugh or watch a smile spread across their face.
But sometimes, I get stuck. It’s that old gossip thing that tries to knock down doors and plunge into conversations. One friend did or said something to the other person that wasn’t nice. Sometimes they unload secrets that I really don’t want to know. Because once the words are out there, you can’t take them back.
This gossip leads to anger when the other friend learns they’ve being talked about in a negative way.
So, I get stuck. Each is pulling an arm in an opposite direction. Each believes that if they give me enough reasoning that I’ll side with them.
Ever been stuck between two friends? Itscommoncourtesy.com has some suggestions in their article, “Caught in the Middle of two Friends.” Always be honest and upfront with both friends. It’s okay to listen but let it be known that you will remain friends with both of them. Also, don’t share trusted information. You don’t want to lose either friend’s trust. In addition, don’t force a reunion. Let your friends work out their problems on their own time schedule.
Being stuck between two friends can be difficult. But with kindness and compassion you can be an example to both friends that you aren’t going to give up on either of them. Remember: Be the friend who sticks closer than a brother. Be the kind of friend who won’t give up and you’ll find friends who stick to you like glue.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.