Galatians 6:4 - Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else.
Compare. It’s troubled waters you will sail into when you begin the game of comparisons.
Those who suffer from emotional pain can often find themselves playing the comparison game.
“Why am I so weak, while they appear so strong?”
“How can they even look at me without thinking of me as less of a person when they have it all together?”
“Why can’t I seem to get a hold of my emotions like they do?”
And on it goes. Each time we turn around we find a reason to label ourselves as one who can’t handle stressful situations. Even small stresses can throw us off course. So how do we win at this game anyway? There’s a simple solution, though it’s not an easy one – stop playing.
To help, it might be good to remember that everyone whether they battle emotional pain or not, plays the game too. At some point in our lives we’ve all failed at something and that something then can push us into years of the comparison game. Yes, it’s not just about our game piece on the board. It’s their piece too.
So how do we stop the game?
Find some ideas from tinybuddah.com in their article, "5 Tips to Stop Making Comparisons and Feeling Bad About Yourself," and the article, "A Helpful Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others," on becomingminimalist.com, such as life isn't a fair game and compare you to yourself instead of others.
As the Bible verse above says, remember that we’re to test our own actions, and be proud of our accomplishments without playing the comparison game.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.