Isaiah 21:3 - At this my body is racked with pain, pangs seize me, like those of a woman in labor; I am staggered by what I hear, I am bewildered by what I see.
If you’re a mother, then you know that motherhood holds both great joy and great sorrow.
It is said that though the pain of labor and delivery is intense, the moment you hold your child within your arms that pain is forgotten. There is much joy while your child grows:
All of these milestones bring great joy to the mother.
But with each new milestone also comes new pain. Especially the ones that cause emotional pain:
Your heart hurts in a deep moan kind of way that only a mother knows.
As the child becomes a young adult there is another kind of pain:
But in the end, your child graduates from high school. You turn your head and its college graduation; another joyful milestone.
Then comes the pain, just like those of labor, when your adult child heads out the door to start their own life, “empty nest syndrome.” This is one of many times when sorrow comes upon you.
Realize though that life is all about growing up and moving on, so you turn your sorrow into joy as they:
The years continue to march on, but sometimes the unexpected happens:
We try to comfort and walk side-by-side with them helping in any way we can.
Sometimes your relationship with your adult child is filled with joy, but at other times it teeters on the edge of a cliff ready to plunge below. These kinds of down falls can be the worst of all and may take years to mend, if they ever do.
So how can we have less sorrow and more joy in our relationship with our adult child? Find some suggestions from aarp.org in their article, “Parenting Adult Children: Are You a Good Friend to Your Grown-up Kid?” One of their suggestions is to observe respectful boundaries.
Yes, motherhood brings pain, but I think that most mothers would still have a child again even knowing that there is more than one kind of “labor pain” we go through as our child matures. Know that God loves your child more than you ever could, and will always have his watchful eyes upon them.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.