Psalm 10:14 - But you, O God, do see trouble and grief; you consider it to take it in hand. The victim commits himself to you; you are the helper of the fatherless.
It is said that a bully can smell a victim “from a mile away.” It’s like as if they just know that you’ve been hurt before and you’re an easy target.
This though can be turned around. From the victim’s perspective they see everyone as a bully, an abuser.
Someone out to get them.
Someone who only wants to harm them.
Someone who can sneak into the victim’s life and slip out, leaving a wake of pain in their path.
But not everyone is a bully.
Not everyone is out to get you.
Not everyone wants to harm you.
There are many kind, understanding and compassionate people. But the victim sees life through dark colored glasses. The color and brightness of relationships are tainted by how they perceive the world.
So how does someone get rid of the victim mentality? Here’s some ideas such as taking responsibility for your life and asking yourself the hard questions in the article, “How to Break out of a Victim Mentality: 7 Powerful Tips,” on positivityblog.com.
Giving up your victim mentality doesn’t mean that the other person gets away with what they’ve done to you. Nor does it mean that other people are allowed to take advantage of you. It means committing what cruel people have done to you to God. He never lets anyone get away with anything even if sometimes it feel like he does.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.