Psalm 55:12-13 - If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend.
Life is hard.
You see, just as you think life is done hurting you, the most painful thing of them all happens – Your loved one hates you. This pain can be even more deeply felt than when you lose a loved one in death.
That statement is going to make some people angry with me, but when you stand in the face of spoiled fruit ready to turn into rancid words and actions; you’ll know what I mean. And, while all the time you don’t have a clue of what you’ve done to make your loved one hate you.
And though we said that we couldn’t do this anymore, when your loved one crosses your path you still try to reach out to them but to no avail.
Is there anything we can do to stop our loved one from hating us? Aren’t our tears enough? Aren’t our efforts to make amends enough? Where did we go so wrong?
Coolcatteacher.com posts the article, “What to do When Someone Hates You.” It provides good advice, such as realizing that not every criticism is motivated by hate and committing not to hate back the one who is hurting us, because ultimately hating hurts the hater most of all.
The Bible verse above is taken from a time in the life of Israel’s King David when he was fleeing for his life. As he fled a close friend turned on him. If it had been an enemy he could’ve endured it, but not someone he cared about. David was saddened for what appeared to be the loss of his close friend.
We can face the same situation except in our case it is a loved one who decides to turn on us. But we must take the high road and not turn on them and throw insults their way. It is God we can depend on just as King David did. God can be our comfort. He is our ultimate loved one and will never speak unkindly about us or become our enemy. Trust that love and maybe someday, you’ll find your loved one no longer hates you.
Karen Dalske is a freelance writer, public speaker, is active in her church and writes her blogs out of her own experiences of pain, illness and loss.